Are you one of the millions of people who stand in front of your mirror repeating positive affirmations like…. I am wealthy, I am the top salesperson in my company or I have an attractive body, and eventually give up because it just isn’t working?
One of the most powerful lessons for me came at a time when I hit rock bottom. I tell the story in my book Dynamic Affirmations, though I had just been diagnosed with a life threatening illness among other things. So, reaching for anything to help me feel better, I went out and bought a box of affirmation cards because I had always heard Affirmations were powerful tools for transformation. (more…)
Affirmations can be powerful tools for transformation! So why don’t they always work?
One reason is that we don’t believe we can really have what we want. It’s important to make your ‘wants’ both exciting and believable!
Each affirmation should be big enough to be exciting but realistic enough to be believable to you. When you read your affirmation aloud what feeling does it evoke?
Positive Vibes: Your affirmation must be about something important to you to stir you, get you excited, (more…)
Article by Harriette Blye
What does affirm mean? It means to assert positively; to tell with confidence; to maintain as true; opposed to deny. I really love the meaning of this word. We really could stop this article at this point because the definition is so exact and so clear. Affirmations are popular and powerful because they are simple, easy and they work. Affirmations reprogram your thought process, they change the way you think and feel. With affirmations you can replace negative beliefs that have been sabotaging you and no longer serve you with new beliefs that are positive and effective in making real changes in your life.
With affirmations you can turn failure into success, you can turn a sour and negative attitude into a great and joyful attitude. You can change bad health into vibrant good health. In other words affirmations can enable you to achieve the life you have always dreamed of having.
There are many ways to affirm. Affirmations can be verbal, mental or written but there is a certain format that make them work.· The statements must be positive. When your subconscious connect with the statement “I don’t have money to pay my bills.” It picks up the “don’t have” and gives you more of what you “don’t have.” The goal here is to target subconscious negative beliefs and replace them with positive nurturing beliefs.· They must be formatted in the present as if they already exist. You would not say, “I plan to have money to pay my bills.” Plan is a future event. · You must include yourself. I am, I Jane or I in the first person. · You must be consistent with repeating your affirmations
Keep your affirmations short, clear and so simple a child would understand them.
This is a simple, clear and positive example of an affirmation: If you weight 180 pounds and your goal is to weigh 155 pounds you would state this: “I Jane Doe am healthy and I weight 155 pounds.”
Don’t concern yourself about what diet you will use, what exercise program you will use. Those things will open up for you. You add the word “healthy” because you could get sick and loose the weight. This would not be good. State what you want and not what you do not want.
The example above happened to me. I found it so interesting that I suddenly began to walk more, I watched what I ate, not dieting, I love swimming so I did that as much as possible. Suddenly my clothes fit and people began to comment about my weight loss. It was easy and so much fun. Almost automatic. No stress. I was delighted.
If you want money to pay your bills you would state this: “I Jane Doe have more than enough money to pay all of my bills.”
When you affirm these statements over time you really begin to believe them as true and your subconscious has no choice but to make this happen for you. It also helps to add this statement at the end of your affirmation. ” I accept this or something better.” This shows you are not trying to control how you get what you intend to have.
An affirm statement goes like this: ” I have a wonderful job in sales that pay me ,000 a year. I accept this or something better.”
When first using affirmations go easy on yourself. If you weight 300 pounds and want to lose 150 pounds affirm the weight lose in 25 pounds increments. If you earned 30,000 in your last sales job consider affirming 0,000 a year.
Affirming ,000,000 could happen but only if your belief system is in place. Continually repeating affirmations with conviction will chip away at the strongest resistance. If you use affirmations correctly they can manifest real and positive change in your life.
When you affirm your statements you believe they are true. Your mind cannot hold two conflicting thoughts.You can speak your affirmations out loud and in front of a mirror. Try saying, “I like myself” in front of a mirror and not smile. Look yourself straight in the eye and affirm your message with emotion. The more emotion you exhibit the faster they will appear for you.
You can sing your affirmations. Make a tune to hum and sing throughout your day. This is fun.You may choose to write your affirmations. Write them (10-20) times. Write them down each morning when you first get up or in the evening before you go to sleep. This imprints them on your brain.You can record your affirmations on your recorder or MP3 player. I use this approach.
No matter which way you choose to affirm I know for a fact they work. I have used affirmations for many years to change bad habits and to get from life exactly what I want. With affirmations you can live your life by design not by default. So get started and have fun. Start with something you really want and affirm it in the present tense as if you already have it.
No matter what you are dealing with or what problems you would like help with affirmations can make you feel better about yourself and your life. Affirmations work well with visualizations. Check that out.
Love, tolerance and peace,
Harriette is a Wife, Mom, Successful Internet Marketer, Registered Respiratory Therapist, former General Motors Car Dealer, started and operated her own successful Staffing Agency and Advertising Weekly Newspaper, Writer, Pubic Speaker, Artist, Baby Boomer and she is doing it her way.
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Affirmations are simply statements that we make to ourselves; it’s our self-talk. You use affirmations all the time, whether you’re doing so intentionally or unintentionally. If you make a mistake and you think to yourself, “I’m always making mistakes, I never do anything right”, you’ve just made a negative affirmation. If instead you make a mistake and you think to yourself, “That’s OK, I have the ability to correct this”, you’ve just made a positive affirmation.
Your self-talk has an enormous impact on your conscious and subconscious minds. By repeating positive affirmations you can reprogram your thought patterns. Creating new thought patterns will allow you to begin to change your underlying beliefs and the way that you think and feel about yourself, others, and your place in the world. In this way, you can improve your life dramatically through the use of daily positive affirmations.
Choosing Your Affirmations
Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualization, offers the following advice for choosing your affirmations:
• Always phrase your affirmations in the present tense, as if it already exists. Say “I enjoy being at my ideal weight” instead of saying “I will reach my ideal weight.”
• Affirm what you want, not what you don’t want. Instead of saying “I am no longer a procrastinator”, say “I always get things done on time.”
• Don’t simply go through your affirmations by rote; add positive feelings and emotions to your affirmations.
• Choose affirmations that feel right for you. If you come across an affirmation that you like but you would feel more comfortable changing a couple of words, go right ahead.
Use Three Different Pronouns
A technique that you can apply to make your affirmations more effective is to write down the same affirmation using different pronouns. For example, if you want to affirm that you’re surrounded by positive people who want the best for you, you can write down the following three affirmations:
• I am surrounded by positive people who want the best for me.
• Joan, you are surrounded by positive people who want the best for you.
• Joan is surrounded by positive people who want the best for her.
When you say affirmations in the second and third person it’s as if someone else is talking to you or about you. Your internal critic is less apt to interject a negative comment if it thinks someone else is making these positive affirmations about you.
Affirmations Can Be General or Specific
Affirmations can be general or they can be very specific. Some examples of general affirmations are the following:
• Abundance is all around me.
• Abundance is my birthright.
• There is more than enough for all.
Use general affirmations to “set the stage”. Once you’ve established clear, well-defined goals for yourself you can create specific affirmations to help keep you focused on your goals and to strengthen your belief in your ability to reach your goals. For example, if your goal is to lose 10 pounds in the next three months by exercising, your affirmations could be the following:
• I now jog for 40 minutes, 4 times a week.
• Jogging helps me to lose weight and makes me healthy and fit.
• I am now lifting weights 3 times a week.
• I enjoy going to the gym and lifting weights.
• I am getting excellent results from jogging and weight lifting, and it shows.
• Every day I am getting fitter and fitter.
• I now weigh X amount of pounds (your target weight).
• People comment on how much thinner I am and how good I look.
You Have To Be Able to Believe Your Affirmations
Whenever you choose to change anything in your life, you’re choosing to move out of your present comfort zone. We should always strive to grow and expand our definition of ourselves and of what we are capable of. However, you have to make sure that your affirmations are not so far off from where you are at the moment that there’s no way you can get yourself to believe what you’re affirming.
If you don’t believe the affirmations you’re saying to yourself, then you need to start with a less ambitious affirmation and gradually make your affirmations bigger and bigger. For example, if you currently make ,000.00 a month, it may be difficult for you to believe “I am now making ,000.00 a month”. However, you can probably believe the following affirmation: “I am now making ,500.00, or more, a month”. As you move forward and begin to see results you can progressively increase this number until you do feel comfortable affirming that you make over half a million dollars a year.
Repeat Your Affirmations Often
There is much power in repetition. Positive affirmations are not something that you do once in a while, instead, you should expose your mind to the affirmations that you choose for yourself as often as possible. In the words of Robert Collier: “Constant repetition carries conviction.”
Write down your affirmations and place them where you can refer to them often (you can even carry them around in your wallet). You can say them out loud to yourself every morning when you wake up and at night before going to bed, or you can set aside a few minutes each day to scribble them on a sheet of paper several times to help reinforce the message in your mind.
Taping the affirmations in your own voice and listening to the tape while you’re relaxing—or, even better, meditating– has had extraordinary effects for countless people. Louise Hay, author of the International bestseller “You Can Heal Your Life”, recommends that you sing or chant your affirmations. Some people leave a CD with positive affirmations playing softly in the background while they sleep at night.
In addition, there are several programs that allow affirmations to flash on and off on your computer screen unobtrusively, helping to program these affirmations into your subconscious.
Practitioners who offer healing workshops often use a technique called “affirmation bath”. Basically, several people stand around one person and they all begin saying positive affirmations directed toward that person. The person is “engulfed” by positive messages from others. You can try this technique if you can find several like-minded people to participate in this exercise with you.
Release Any Negative Feelings that Arise
Negative feelings can act as self-imposed stop signs to getting what you want in life.
If you feel any discomfort, self-doubt, fear, anger, and so on when saying your affirmations, you need to let go or release these negative feelings. One way to do this is by using the Sedona Method. As stated before, you have to add positive feelings and emotions to your affirmations, and if negative feelings are getting in the way, you need to be able to let go of them.
Your self-talk can either prevent you from getting what you want in life, or it can be a powerful catalyst for creating the life you’ve always wanted. Create a daily practice of using positive affirmations to help motivate, support, and inspire you to go after your dreams.