There’s a scientific explanation for why we sometimes fly off the handle or say things to others we wish we hadn’t said. And while it’s cool to know it’s not our fault, it’s also not a productive or attractive way to deal with our emotions.

When you notice someone or something has pushed your buttons and you feel those negative emotions rising, it’s your opportunity to practice emotional discipline and lower the intensity of those negative emotions.

Here are 7 tips to help you keep your cool:
1. Shift your focus to something that feels better as quickly as you can. I often use gratitude as my ‘go to’ emotional tool. When was the last time you were mad or angry and grateful at the same time? It’s just not possible.